Why the name ‘Sparkling Suitcase’?

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Our head is just like a suitcase- the lighter, the better ! But if stuffed it becomes difficult to carry it! Similarly the negative thoughts, stress, unwanted distractions burden us and makes it difficult to be happy! So keep it light ! Just smile  and sparkle!

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All that we have control over are our thoughts and actions.

Let’s convince ourselves that people are generally good and they mean well. They like themselves to be thought highly of- because they have good intents. As fellow humans, everyone is worthy of our empathy. They deserve love first, judgement second. We should have hearts that empathise, apologise, introspect, grow and understand that all we can control at the end of the day is ourselves- our own thoughts and actions.

It’s easy to blame others, focussing on their actions rather than our reaction. Of course they are responsible too but it’s not our domain to make them aware of this. All we have at the end of the day is our truth- our actions, our thoughts and choices. And we have the power to either dwell on “what they did” or choose to claim ownership and responsibility and resume our rightful power over our own life.

10 days in banglore

I have been travelling since past one month and ended my trip in banglore which is a IT Hub of India.

Banglore is a perfect mix of good weather, good people and good food. I stayed at yelanka area which is outside the main city. I visited the Manipal academy of banking, Lalbaug and cubbon parks. I also visited the bustling M.G ROAD, Brigade Road and korabangla which houses some of the finest restaurants.

Things I learnt:

1. To order ola and uber well before the required time since the city is congested with traffic.

2. To not eat dominos or other brands since their taste differ significantly from mumbai . Prefer local Udupi restaurants rather

3. I also learnt to speak basic sentences in Tamil and Kannada 😊

Some snapshots :

A rainy day at the cubbon park

that’s the best known banglore ice cream cream stone me trying fishing 🎣 at the Hebbal lake

It’s all in the Planets🌒 :book review

Do you believe in astrology?

Reading daily predictions in newspapers?

I always thought it could never be true. How can anyone know our immediate future?

Reading this book, again a masterpiece from Preeti Shenoy (reading her third book in a row) tells me that astrology is based on 1. Astronomy which is science of stars, planets and heavenly bodies

2. Mathematics which is calculation of the distance of the heavenly bodies between each other that can help us gauge the intensity of effects of planets

3. Predictions which are based on the observations of the above two

It is a story of :

Aniket : a plump guy with a beer belly who is a software engineer and looks average with a very hot girlfriend

He is simple and values his girlfriend above everything who in reality doesn’t love him and is double dating him.

Trish : The model girlfriend who is lose on character and drinks too much. She climbs on the parapet on the terrace in a party and dies at the end of the story.

Nidhi: A 32 year old who is unmarried and has quit her corporate job to pursue her hobbies. She meets Aniket as a co passenger in the train. But they instantly become friends.

Darshita Sen: The daily forecast astrologer.

The book has 32 chapters with alternate chapters on Aniket and Nidhi. A total of 306 pages.

I thoroughly enjoyed reading it as it was a new subject completely. I had to google some terms and it much fun to be absorbed in the book completely.

Here are some excerpts:

The Secret Wish list: Book Review

I have become a fan of Preeti Shenoy. She writes about the unsaid rules about women in Indian Society so beautifully.

The story is of a girl Diksha who had fallen in love with a guy Ankit at 16 and was caught kissing by her brother and a teacher. What followed was a horrible thing. She was pulled out of the school and the family shifted to a far off place. She was married off to an unknown guy at 19 and got pregnant soon.

She stayed at home to take care of the house and the family only to be taken for granted. She was always treated as a maid and as a dumb lady good for nothing by her well earning husband. He never respected her .. not even in bed.

She changed her dressing habits, killed her hobbies, never raised her voice against her husband only to keep her parents and the society happy. After all she was dependent on him financially.

At 35, her cousin Vibha who was a career conscious women having a good job lost her husband and asked her to come to Hyderabad. She then explained that life is short and you must pen down what you want in life and do it.

The story takes a drastic turn with Ankit coming back to her life after 18 years and giving her the voice and confidence to change her life.

The story is about an Indian women I so connect with. Unsaid rules I do adhere too. It is about true love and about a KISS in a conservative land that can change a girls life.

Some excerpts :

The sheer joy of Christmas 🎄

It is that time of the year! Lit up homes… sparkling decor.. plum cakes… secret Santa… Christmas smiles. I so love it 😍

It’s time to scatter joy and happiness wherever we go and stay healthy, wealthy and joyous for all the 365 days of the upcoming year and get tons of opportunities, blessings and good friends too! Most importantly, be happy and let go the past. Live in the moment. Smile often and seek happiness in the small things in life.

Yesterday I went to a mall, watched Star Wars, ate Mexican food, did baking and met my friend who gave me a Christmas present. The best part was watching the cricket match on Tv with my father and cheering aloud!

Christmas holidays are the best. I was thrilled to see the pictures and videos of my friends on Snapchat. Most of them are in USA doing their masters and some in other parts of the world. The best from all the pictures were of New York. People ice skating around the Christmas tree. I so want to do it !

Today is Christmas and I want to spend the whole day only with my family and my books. I am more than happy to share that my younger sister saved up from her pocket money to buy a barbie doll for our maid’s daughter. Dear Shivani, we are proud of your act. Be kind always. Muah 💋

Me trying to camouflage with the candies Star Wars in 4D was mind blowing. The Jedi will stay forever.

My favourite is burritos and tacos 🌮 I love Mexican cuisine 🎊 Peep… Peep ….Make way for Mr.Santa That’s my Christmas gift from my so called ‘secret Santa ‘.

That’s such a cute stocking made by Shivani. She is an amazing artist.

Joy resounds in the Hearts of those who believe in the Miracle of Christmas!😇✨

May you receive a lots of Happy moments & good wishes in your life Ahead 😘🎁

Stay Happy & Positive forever ✨

Wish you a Merry Christmas 🎊🎄♥️

Merry Christmas to you and your family!!

Life is what you make it: Book Review

A story of a 21 year old girl Ankita who came from a humble background and was hardworking, smart, talented and good looking. A topper in school, Vice President of the students council at college, she was proposed by Abhi who was just like her but not so career focussed. He was mad in love with her.

Ankita was already in a long distance relationship with Vaibhav who was studying at IIT DELHI. She felt sympathetic towards Abhi as he had no parents and a tough life.

Things changed when Abhi was found dead drowned in the sea after Ankita broke up with him as she was moving to Bombay from Cochin to pursue her MBA.

She was upset but soon recovered. Abhi’s grandpa had said to her at abhis funeral that one should never “belittle love ❤️ ”

She dint care. She was blinded by her ambition. She moved on to do her MBA from a premier institute in Bombay.

She made notes, did sprints,juggled through the chores and was so much engrossed in all that that she never slept. She became over enthusiastic about every little thing and became a reservoir of energy. At the same time, her behaviour was slowly changing. She got angry over pity things, jogged for hours, remembered every single line of the books, did everything to a limitless extent.

Things changed when her parents once found out the love letters from her bedroom. From there on,She became quiet, lost confidence, got panic attacks, became anxiety prone, could not study or jog, put on lot of weight.

She felt depressed, useless, lonely. She threw things in her room. She cut her hand. She tried to die….twice !

Preeti Shenoy has thrown light on people suffering from bipolar disorder. What is it and how one can recover from it. Millions of people from across the globe face it but do not try to come out of it or accept it! How one can get back to a normal life and things can change if we strive to!

Ankita was later taken to many psychiatric s. She was admitted to a mental hospital. A topper at school, an all rounder and a talented girl had suddenly lost to the tricks of life!

A beautiful story of how she recovered and came back to tracks!

At times in life degrees and grades don’t matter……. love and time dies

At times ….it’s just good to be a mediocre!

Here are some excerpts:

Happy reading guys ! Happy weekend. Have a great one.

6 Steps To Recover From Financial Disaster

If you’re suffering from a serious financial setback, don’t worry – you’re not alone and there is a solution.In fact, the recent stock market crash, real estate decline, and banking panic has left many people in the same position.
And if the recent financial crisis wasn’t enough to take you down, it seems many people found their way to financial disaster through more traditional routes like divorce, overspending, medical bills, or bankruptcy.
The reality is more people than ever face serious financial difficulty today.
Regardless of what caused your financial setback, your path to recovery and prosperity will require a common set of action steps.
You may believe your situation is unique, but many have walked this path before you. The road to financial recovery is well-worn, and the steps to come back after financial disaster are fully proven.

Recently experienced a financial setback? It happens to the best of us. Fortunately, there’s a proven 6 step process you can take to get back on your feet. Discover it here!

Step 1 – Accept Your Situation

The starting point for financial recovery is to stop wallowing in your misery and accept reality.
Yes, it’s a bummer. Yes, you’re likely the victim of somebody else’s wrongdoing. Yes, it’s devastating.
Most important of all – none of that matters now. What’s done is done and there is no turning back.Resisting what’s already a fact is futile, so don’t waste your energy. Accept reality.
Living in the past only makes forward progress more difficult. Instead, accept the setback, let go of it, and commit to forward movement.Not because it’s the right thing to do, but because it’s the best way to help yourself.

As long as you waste your energy wallowing in your misery, you’ll have that much less energy to dedicate to solving the very real challenges you face to move forward in life.

The best defense is a good offense, so get out of defensive mode and get started on the road to recovery with a clear offensive strategy.
Step 2 – Take Inventory

The second step to financial recovery is to take inventory of your current situation.

You must know what resources you have, and what liabilities you face, when developing your plan to come back from catastrophe.

You have to know where you’re at now before you can develop a realistic plan to get where you want to go in the future.
It’s no different than using a road map to plot your path to a destination. In order to plan the route to reach your goal, you must first locate where you are now on the map.
It’s the same thing financially – you must define your starting point based on what is true today.

Ask yourself the following questions to assess your situation:

What are your remaining assets?

How much money do you owe?

How much income do you bring in each month?

How much do you spend?

What is your credit score?

Are they any long term implications to the financial disaster (alimony, health issues, I.R.S. liens) that must be included in your recovery plan?

Know where you’re at now so you can form a plan to get where you want to go.

Step 3 – Define Your Goal

The third step in your financial recovery plan is to define your objective or goal. You must determine where you want to go financially.
Staying with our road-map analogy, this step is akin to locating your end destination on the map.
Once you know where you are (step 2), and you know the end destination (step 3), it’s simply a matter of plotting the course to get there (step 4).
Setting your end destination is the same thing as setting a goal.
The “S.M.A.R.T.” goal setting system provides helpful guidelines:
Specific: There must be a clear and definable end result. For example, “I want to make more money” is too vague and general, but, “I want to have $10,000 per month residual income after taxes by January 5th, 2017″ is specific and points you in a clear direction.

Measurable: You must have some way to measure your progress toward the goal. In the example above, the measurement is dollars of residual income per month. I also encourage you to add interim goals along the way to break big goals into more realistic chunks. For example, how much residual income should you have one year from now? Three years? Five years?

Attainable: There’s a fine balance between setting a goal that stretches your ability while still remaining within reach. If you set a goal that’s too easy, then you’re not challenging yourself. If you make it too hard, then you’re setting yourself up for failure. A properly designed goal achieves that razor-edge balance that stretches your comfort zone without being out of reach.

Realistic: If you’re deep in credit card debt and filing for bankruptcy, it probably isn’t realistic to set a goal of becoming a millionaire in 12 months. Enough said?

Timely: A goal without a deadline is just wishful thinking. You may want $10,000 per month residual income, but unless you include a date for this to occur by, it doesn’t qualify as a smart goal. It’s just wishful thinking. Give yourself a deadline.

Step 4 – Develop Your Plan

Now that you have your goal for financial recovery and you’ve assessed where you’re at today, the next step is to develop a plan that bridges the gap between where you are now and where you want to be.

Staying with our road-map analogy, you need to figure out the most efficient path to get from point A to point B.
It’s important to note you must balance offensive and defensive strategy at this point to keep the process fun and fulfilling.
For example, one mistake I often see people make when paying down debt is to do nothing but pay down debt. The problem is that’s not very fun or very rewarding for most people.
One solution is to balance paying down debt with adding in a little tax deferred retirement savings or other assets.
The reason is to experience some emotional satisfaction so you feel rewarded by the asset growth, which increases your odds of staying with process long-term.
We aren’t robots: our emotions are part of the process and must be honored.

Step 5 – Take Action

The fifth step – taking action – sounds obvious when reading it, but for some reason, it eludes many people in practice.

The reason it’s important is because a plan for financial recovery is nothing more than wishful thinking until it’s converted into action.Nothing happens until you take action. It’s where the rubber meets the road. Action is the fuel that converts goals into tangible results.
A lot of people dream about improving their financial situation, but few take consistent action, and that makes all the difference. The ability to consistently and persistently direct meaningful action toward achieving a goal is what separates successful people from those who are not.
Step 6 – Correct And Adjust
As you take action, the one result you can be certain of is you’ll learn from your experience – and mistakes.
You’ll improve your skills and become more knowledgeable as you take action. That’s why you should never try to perfect your plan from the beginning.

Instead, just get started with a reasonably intelligent approach and correct course as you learn more.
The wise goal achiever knows that perfection is impossible, but correction is desirable; therefore, he just gets started as best he can. Then, he adjusts along the way to achieve his goal more quickly and efficiently.

Seldom (almost never) will your first plan be your best plan, so don’t waste the effort trying. Starting immediately is more important because you’ll have plenty of time to correct course later.
Perfection is impossible – correction is desirable.

That’s it – six simple steps that can help anyone turn the corner following a financial setback. Now that you know what to do, having a concrete wealth plan to achieve your financial goals might help you stay focused.
And if you have any other tips I left out, please add them in the comments 

(I was reading this article from financialmentor.com. Found it amazing! Hope it helps. Good day. )

One Indian Girl: A book review 


Chetan Bhagat, the author of one of the best selling fiction book one Indian girl has written about Radhika Mehta, a middle class Delhi girl who made it to the iim and earned million dollars from her investment banking job at Goldman Sachs in New York.

She waa a nerdy girl who never dated guys or waxed. She met Debu, a marketing professional in New York and fell in love with him. He eventually left her thanks to her salary and career focused attitude. He wanted someone who could stay back home to take care of the kids and made lesser than him. She was broken, depressed and annoyed. She even flung her iPhone in the Brooklyn bridge to loose contact with debu.

She moved to hong Kong where she dated her senior colleague Neel who was 20 years older to her and was married with two kids.There was no commitment only love. Rather lust. She felt guilty and insecure. She had no future with that man. She wanted a family too! She left Neel and hongkong to get married to an Unkwon guy her parents found for her from a matrimony website. 

She was in Goa for her destination arranged marriage with Brijesh Gulati when her both exes come to apologise for the past and convince her to marry them instead. 

It all ended with radhika calling off her wedding and not marrying anyone. She went back to her work and happened to meet Brijesh while traveling. He still loved her and she was only in tears was her past. 

Some excerpts 

A visit to India’s own Disneyland: Imagica❤️

We recently visited imagica, a Disneyland theme park located near Mumbai. It takes 3 hours to drive from Mumbai to Khopoli. It is an amazing place! 

We entered Snow Magica when we entered the park. It was hot and we decided to cool down before taking the thrilling and fun filled rides.

Papa taking a walk on the snow. 

My little sister on a merry go round. 

The alibaba castle is so beautiful 😍 

The scream machine. Me and pa shared a lot of courage, laughter and screams! 

The map of the theme park 

Chotu playing a pirate and splashing water on fellow visitors.

It looked like ….

Before the gold rush collect roaster.

Inside an igloo in the snow world. 

By the reindeer.

It was a beautiful journey! We loved the thrilling experience. Thank you adlabs Imagica! 
How to reach imagica ? 

From Mumbai, Pune: there are many bus services which connect the place. 3 hours by bus. 2 hours by train and then take a bus.

Park timings : 10 am to 6pm 

Ticket prices: 1600 rs inclusive of the snow park on weekdays.